Today is our ENGAGIVERSARY! One year ago today I got engaged to the best man in all the land!

One year ago today I got into a tiff with him over a haircut. He said he didn’t want to get a haircut because he had a special dinner planned. I immediately said that was fine, because I love special dinners! I rushed home from work- to find him sitting on the couch watching a movie. Nothing on the stove. Nada in the oven. I was let down, to say the least. He said he was sorry- and that he just really didn’t want to get a haircut… but he had a bottle of Pinot Grigio, and we should drink it on the rooftop. The sun was about to set. Fine. We walked up the stairs to the rooftop of our building. There was a table and two chairs, wine glasses, a tablecloth, cloth napkins, napkin rings (!!), and a bottle of Prosecco. “He is just being nice he is just being nice” was on repeat in my head. we sat down to our five course meal from Piccollo Venice- our favorite spot. We cheers’ed our bubbly. He told the worlds longest roofing story. The sun went down and I got cold. He had my jacket on the roof waiting for when I got a chill. He is just being nice he is just being nice. More roofing story. A bit of me complaining about my job (I am sorry lovie- I know I do that too much). Then he said he had a present for me too! He is just being nice he is just being nice. It was a jewelry box. It was lime green and very very cool. It was empty. He is just being nice he is just being nice. He said he had more. He got down on his knee. He was so nervous. I could tell. He said- I love you, I want to be with you forever. Will you please marry me?

image via us- on our rooftop!

Thank you, my love. I am a very lucky girl. I know this. We are going to have a wonderful life together- full of happiness, laughter, respect, love and honesty (and a golden doodle and Arian babies). Cheers to forever! Love you mucho.

Long Post- Probably because we got a lot o sh*t done...

**UPDATE: Of the 9 things that we had to do this last weekend- we did 6! Pretty good! We did not get baby sitter referrals because we decided we are not doing this (if you want to bring your kids to the wedding- you have to watch them! What a concept!). I didnt get around to hair and make up- next time. And cake- apparantly you have to be pretty exclusive to get Michelle from Big Sur Bakery to make your cake. Good thing we ARE and our amazing day of/all around best help ever, Cheri is going to git-r-done. **

Happy Monday!


We just returned from another great weekend in Big Sur! The weather was heaven! We got so much done and I think we were both able to take a spoonful out of our stressed out cup and add a spoonful to the excited cup! Aside from the fact that I feel like our wedding is going to be a ZOOOOOOOO (300 people- fml), it is going to be so special.

We raced up on Friday morning to meet Cheri at the site… ahhh…Ms. Point 16. You are a very special lady. Cheri is so rad- she makes me feel so calm about everything. There really aint a thing to worry about when you have a woman like her on your team. I walked around the site and got giddy and took pics and fantasized about our day.

We then proceeded to reward ourselves for a job well done at Fernwood Tavern, aka “The Dog” (mind you, we were rewarding ourselves for very little- driving to Big Sur and making it to Point 16 by 2pm? Hard work you two! Go celebrate! We are so stupid.) . I have been “dieting” so I rewarded myself with hot wings, a salmon quesadilla, and a buffalo burger and fries. Oh, and about 15 glasses of Pinot Grigio, a jack and water on the rocks, and a late night shot of well tequila with our new "friend" Ben. Needless to say, I spent the night in the bathroom. You got me again, Big Sur! I still love you though.

Saturday morning we had breakfast at the Big Sur Bakery. OH. MY. GOD. It was heaven. Go there. Now. And have the breakfast pizza. Yum. And if you are hungover like I was, have two mimosas. Yum yum. After breakfast we drove up to Carmel Valley (he drove, I slept) to meet with John from Paradise Caterers. They are making the feast for the rehearsal dinner. A cute little BBQ if you will… even though it is at the SICKEST art gallery ever! I think my man was getting a little jealous on the way back because I would not SHUT UP about how nice and thoughtful and caring and accommodating and charming John was. But its true- he is! I heart him mucho! image via my blackberry. We were dumbfounded when we walked down the path to find this. Seriously, I was like pissed off at how pretty this was.

Sunday before heading south we met our awesome florist, Kate Healy and cranked away all of the (really really fun) details! The flowers are going to look awesome! We are so stoked! She is another lady that makes me feel so calm… I don’t have a worry in the world (aside from the ridiculous and embarrassing size of our guest list, the fact that we don’t know where to have the stupid brunch the day after the wedding, we have about 100 people too many for the rehearsal dinner, my sister and I are in (another) fight over her worthless husband, I don’t have anyone to do hair or makeup for us bitches, the “rounds” that I have been daydreaming about may not happen, and I am the most awkward person on the planet so I am still staying up at night worrying about having to be charming and sweet and funny and pretty all weekend).




Lovers.

To Do:

We are headed to Big Sur this weekend! Woo hoo! My goal for this weekend: Get Shit Done. in the past, we have gone up, made a decision, maybe two, and then we eat, drink, and play the rest of the time. I love to do those things, but this is a serious weekend.

Here is what needs to get done (I mean it this time!!):

1. Meet with Cheri (caterer and Point 16 master) and Kate (florist) to discuss preliminary budgets, design, feeling, etc.
2. Start to discuss menu with Cheri (!!!!)
3. Further discuss the chuppah (redwood branches and peach-ish flowers)
4. Get referrals for child care during the wedding (it does not get any more BS than this- but my mother is making me do it): When did it become a crime to watch your own kid? When my sister got married certain family members were livid that she was not having children at the wedding (certain family members DID NOT come to the wedding because they could not bring their nuggets). But now I am expected to hire a sitter to watch the kids that you insist on bringing… this is nuts. I will do it, but I am quietly judging said parents).
5. Hair and make-up: this one is annoying. I don’t mean to be high maintenance but it is going to be really annoying to find a make up girl who I can trust, to come down and make me and my girls look pretty. This is one of the times I wish we were getting married in LA so I could just run over to the MAC or Stila counter.
6. Cake- we haven’t even thought about this one
7. Caterer for Rehearsal Dinner- we are meeting with them Saturday at 1pm (yes, I planned it around lunchtime) to decide on the menu and preliminary rentals. Ugh. This has gotten so out of hand.
8. Take pics! Of the site! I have been there a few times- but it is always a blur. It has that effect on people.
9. Decide on the site for the morning after brunch. Barf. I hate that we have to have this- but we do, and we need to decide where it is going to be…

So, considering we have two days- I think we may be busy. Although, I am sure we will find time for cards, pinot grigio, and Nepenthe. We always seem to. I am realistically shooting for checking off 6 out of the 9 items on this list. That’s fair. Maybe 5. it depends how long the wait at Nepenthe is.
Image via us, the last time we were at Point 16... heaven.

Hair

My hair is fried. Straight up. I had platinum blonde hair all through college and I am still pretty blonde today. It is a miracle I have any hair at all (my man has found my hair in his mouth on more than one occasion- yuck, I know). But I do. I am not good at pulling off the “sophisticated” look when it comes to hair- or any part of me, really… I have blonde, stringy, sometimes wavy, always looking like it may need a brush run through it, hair. I think I just described it poorly, because I also really like my hair… its cool.

We are having a “mellow” Big Sur wedding- I want natural make up, sandals, sunglasses, sun tans, a fire pit, etc. but I also want bad ass hair. I have been wondering what I was going to do- and I keep getting drawn back to my girl-
I am just wondering if I can pull it off while still looking natural. Big ass flower on the side- consider me happy.

And I also want fake eyelashes- i figure if I keep the rest natural I can pull it off. I'm thinkin 1970's boho beach chic... Heck yeah.

I am in love. This is EXACTYLY what "we" want. I think it may even make my mother happy :)
I swear- I can check flowers off of my list because momma has made a decision! They will look so good against the navy dresses we picked out for the maids- and our tan bodies! Hot! Hot! Hot! Who knew flowers could turn me on...



image via Style Me Pretty.

WOOD!

I did not think about weddings much before planning this one. My sister had a very traditional wedding and I was living out of state and I college during her planning process- so I was not very involved. The summer I graduated from UW- my two besties from Oly got hitched. These two weddings changed my idea of what a wedding was. I had previously attended traditional Jewish weddings. Formal, indoors, lots of flowers, and steak or fish for dinner. My Oly girls both threw weddings that represented them- not other weddings. I am not looking to replicate their weddings, but they raised the bar for me. People are traveling very far to come to celebrate our love- I know this sounds a little greedy- but I want to blow their minds.

Instead of paying $6.95/piece to rent the chargers that serve no purpose but to be a placeholder for the plain white plates- I have commissioned a huge pain in the butt project. I happen to know a logger (o yeah!). One of my dearest friend’s Dad is a logger in the beautiful state of Washington. He and his wife are going to help me make wood chargers with a raw edge. He will find the tree- and then we will “slice” the tree in to 1” (hopefully not thicker than that) rounds. The “tree” will then be shipped to Cali- where I will sand them and wax them and brand them. All 200 (ish) of them. I can’t tell if this is a crazy idea or not. So now we need to come up with our “brand” and order a branding iron, and then brand the slices in our front yard? Yeah… this may be crazy…

I am thinking that this can also double as our “favors”. (I personally find the whole idea of a favor absolutely ridiculous. I am very appreciative that people are coming to our wedding, I am. But weddings also happen to be a great freaking time and I feel like having a Friday night dinner with cocktails and gift bags in the rooms and then a night of celebrating, dinner, drinking, and dancing followed by a brunch on Sunday is ENOUGH. If people also need a jar of honey or a bag of those almond things- they can save it). These slivers of wood will have some sort of branding on them would be great for a stepping stone in someone’s garden, or a cool thing to put on a shelf, or a great addition to any table top- put candles on it, a vase, whatevs… and for people who don’t want to schlep a sliver of wood back home with them, I will keep them ALL.

Anyways- this is what I want them to look like… And here is what we can do with the leftovers- walkway and a wood wall...
genius ideas via apartment therapy

The California men dreamed of...

One of the (many) amazing things about getting married at Point 16 is the view. It is a stupid view. It is as ridiculous as views come. So obviously we are having a day time wedding. This view is also the reason why we had to search so long and hard for a Rabbi who would marry us on the Sabbath. But that is neither here not there. As far as décor- we don’t have to do too much. My mother and I have been collecting lanterns for months, which will be hung at different lengths from the trees, with tea lights in them, but other than that, we plan on letting Big Sur do the talking. Once the sun sets, however, I would like lights like this to do the talking… Thanks Martha!

oh, and this one, this is the site Point 16 after dark. Good thing no one reads this blog or else people would want to kill me out of sheer jealousy!